Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Busy...but a quick update!

Super busy with work, home, projects, welcome meal (and hopefully I will get to meet little Logen)...you know the usual...so I asked Alissa to write a Friday Friendly Fun:) But, I wanted to give you a quick update this week since I will not be writing.

Amy reported that facetime with Ashley and Danny the past couple nights has been successful.  Big YAY for technology and keeping them in touch with all of their friends and family as they keep that stupid cancer away forever! Ashley shaved Danny's head and he looks great! They seemed to be in good spirits yesterday after the first treatment and I'm sure they can feel all the love we are sending them!



Absolutely LOVE this picture...
and there are more on the caringbridge site if you haven't checked it out:


A good friend of Ashley and Danny's, Shanna, wants to do something special for Danny. She created a Power of Prayer....Live at 5. Everyday at 5:00pm we are inviting everyone to say a prayer for Danny. Set your phone alarm, take a minute and PRAY!

When I talked to Ashley last weekend she expressed a feeling that I am unable to describe in words...Overwhelming Gratitude.  She simply can't believe all of the love and support they are receiving...keep it up!  We will continue to add your encouraging words to the scrapbook each week so that they can feel your love and read your support whenever they need it.

The Money Tree is starting to take shape and it looks great so far! I'll post a picture next week hopefully. We had a lovely time starting the scrapbook. Well, actually, I am a control freak so Amy, Tammy and Ashley were scared that they would mess up and I would yell at them...NEVER:)  Lots of giggles.  Lots of love.  And we packaged all that love and some laughs up for Amy to bring to Ashley and Danny at the end of the week:) 

10 days of no smoking:) Camille is out of pull-ups at bedtime and no accidents in over two weeks.  Keegan is waking up dry most of the time too...we are almost done forever! 

Make sure you check back on Friday...Alissa is the real author in my family and I'm sure she will have something great to read:)

Friday, January 6, 2012

FFF: Overwhelming Gratitude

Overwhelming Gratitude!

This week has been wonderful!  I have been reminded why it's not so bad to live in a small community your entire life.  I am inspired by the number of people that want to help the DeVito's.  A few of the messages have brought tears, but tears of overwhelming gratitude.  We will be able to fill a tree a couple times, I have no doubt.  We are already receiving lots of goodies and people are still spreading thier story! People that can't afford to donate have offered to help in other ways. 

Simply amazing!  Don't have time to write...too much work to do (And have to watch Grey's Anatomy;)) Happy Friday!

 No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves. ~ Amelia Earhart

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Road to Recovery Donation Options!







Per request...here is a site you can donate to rather than sending a check or gift card! 



If you prefer to send a check you can do it a few ways:

1.  You can make the check payable to me (Laura Strong) and I'll cash it and put money on the tree.

2.  You can make the check payable to Danny and Ashley Devito and I'll put the check on the tree.

3.  Or you can mail/drop off a gift card.

4.   If you see me out and about in church or in the community...make me get out my planner and put it in the envelope I have set aside for them so that I don't misplace anything!



My address is 215 West Riverview Dr. Woodville, Ohio 43469

Jessica Cousino is also collecting donations.  Her address is 2023 CR 62 Gibsonburg, OH 43431

Ashley's sisters, Amy and Brittany, as well as Ashley and Danny's good friends (and pretty much their sister too;)) Kori, will also accept donations and get them to us. 

I am truly amazed at the overflowing love our community is extending and know that the DeVito and Perkins family are amazed and truly grateful for all of your support as well.

Continue to follow Danny's progress during treatment here (Thanks again, Kori for keeping everyone informed on the treatment plan and the road to recovery!

 http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/dannyandashley

If you missed the original post, you can read it here: http://publiclookin.blogspot.com/2012/01/road-to-recovery.html

Lots and lots and lots of love, Laura

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Road to Recovery

With the start of a new year people are often ready to finish the chapter and start a new one, take a different road, build a bridge over the water.  If it was a bad year, you probably want to start a new book entirely or go to AAA and have them map a different route.  New beginnings are refreshing and often necessary.   Yet, sometimes you have to take the winding, bumpy road instead.  Maybe the road even looks like a dead end when you get in the car.  The new year simply can't close all chapters and bridges take time to build and detours aren't always on the map.

The last couple weeks at our house were crazy.  Every night we entertained friends or family, rushed to a holiday party, concert, watched children or went to dinner with friends.  The end result is half of my family is sick, but I still think it was worth it because friends and family make life worth living.  Toward the end of last week I was tired. On top of crazy holiday schedules, work was erupting after a slow period of minimal work. I was feeling unmotivated to do much more than what needed to be done.  Unmotivated to give back. Unmotivated to write.  Unmotivated to reach out.  Burnt-out.

Unfortunately, this burn out feeling isn't new to me .  I think it's normal to have periods of burn out.  It's one of the reasons why employers offer vacation.  Some of my friends even take "mental health days" where they bring their children to the sitter and run errands or do housework by themselves.  Sometimes you need a recharge.  Sometimes you hit a pot hole and your car breaks down. Usually for me my recharge is time with friends and family! Most of the time my support group can help me turn the car around and put the wheels back in place. But even though I was enjoying my time away from work with friends, I was still burnt out, stuck in a pot hole. 

Then I received a text from a friend.  She heard of an organization that helps with cancer families.  Even though our communication was via text, I could hear her excitement about the organization and her inspiration to help was building as we bounced ideas off each other! First she just wanted me to pass on the information- you can check out their website here:  http://ccofnwo.blogspot.com/ !  One thing led to another and her excitement and enthusiasm to help was building.  I know this, because I feel this same surge of energy when I am involved with charitable projects.

She is eager and honest in her desire to help.  She is a cancer survivor and remembers all of the support that was extended to her in her time of need.  She wants to do something, something BIG, but doesn't know where to start.  I told her that I would think about it, talk to some of their family and get back to her...then I continued on with my busy schedule and put the project in my glove compartment.

Last week my biggest worry was having enough time to clean my house in between parties and having enough appetizers set out each night for my friends.  Then I read a post from an equally busy friend of mine and was slapped with perspective and knew I had to take Jess's enthusiasm and run with it.
"Praying for a friend today that has to fight the fight everyday for the next 6 weeks, when we think its tough think of how it could be." John Donley

I hung out with a couple girlfriends on my last day of vacation and one of them told me about a woman in town without heat for her house. My friend has invited her to earn extra income by picking up some slack with her children and house chores.  Her husband is looking at her furnace.  JUST BECAUSE.
I took the thoughts out of the glove compartment and concentrated on the DeVito's. I have made it a point to surround myself with positive, inspiring people like my friends above.  I think everyone should take steps in their life to surround themselves with positive people!  Maybe even make it a late resolution!  It is important and necessary to be continually inspired to be a better person.  Ashley and Danny are two people that fit this bill. One reason that I surround myself with people like them is because I have found that when you need people in your corner, praying for you, rooting for you, the more you have, the more likely you are to finish on top. If you give your all, you will get every one's all back when you are the one that needs it.  I have said it before, but I truly believe it, to be successful you need to surround yourself with positive, successful people.
 
After I put the kids to bed and started to wind down from the holiday season, I thought about my friend’s text.  Her desire to help the DeVito's as they start the strict treatment plan, the road to recovery.  You can read more about their journey on this website intended to keep everyone informed and up to date on the progress, created by a couple of their best friends, the Wargacki's, here: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/dannyandashley . (Kori does the website, but Jake took a week of vacation during Danny's recovery from surgery to help him get around and keep him company...pretty freaking awesome friends if you ask me!!!)
Danny is a healthy 27 year old.  He married Ashley Perkins July 17, 2010.  He doesn't smoke.  He and Ashley are fitness FREAKS. He is a pharmacist.  He has strong faith in God.  He has a supportive family.  He has great friends...because he is wonderful.  Recently he was diagnosed with lung cancer.
Next week Danny has to start chemo and radiation. Danny and Ashley have decided that Danny will be treated in Columbus.  They will be away from friends and family during the strict 6 week treatment regimen.  I thought about the stress of time off of work, not being at home to prepare meals and things that might help them survive this difficult, curvy road they have been forced to follow. Things that could make this road to recovery a little less agonizing.  Because they need the prayers and support now more than ever.
I came up with a couple ideas, but to make them a success, I need some help...some help from my positive, inspiring friends.  Many people have asked me how they can help, do they need a home cooked meal?  Is there anything that they need? 
Since they will be away from home, I think the best way to help is a Money Tree (Heidi made one for Hailey's 18th birthday and I've been itching to make one)!  We would like to fill a tree with cash donations, gift cards to gas stations, gift cards to restaurants...whatever amount you can afford and feel compelled to give will help!  A friend that walked this journey with her husband also suggested movies, playing cards, things to occupy hospital time...they can be the soil in our tree! You can mail donations to me or Jessica Cousino...I will put our addresses at the bottom.  We are shooting for midway through the treatment to present the Money Tree which will be the first week of February.  Please have any donations dropped off/mailed to us by January 30th.  If you would like to remain anonymous, please specify with your donation and we will not include your name on the card.
Another fun idea that only requires a small amount of time is helping to make them a "Road to Recovery" scrapbook.  We will be putting a scrapbook together and plan to add to it each week.  Please email or write words of positive attitude or faith. I know there are alot of encouraging people that want to help in this fight for a cure, here is an easy way to lift their spirits. Many people have already posted encouraging words, success stories, poems and well wishes on the caringbridge site.  Please continue to post things there as I'm volunteering Kori to help us:)If you would like them to be more personal or simply don't want them on the caringbridge site, you can email them to me and I will add them to the scrapbook as well.
 
Pearl is the lung cancer color and symbol.  Wear your pearls.  Donate if you can. Share your success story or how you manage stressful times!  The Road to Recovery is tough, but with everyone supporting them, I have no doubt the DeVito's will cruise right on to the next adventure...CANCER FREE on cruise control! 
Strongs:
215 W Riverview Dr. Woodville, Ohio 43469
lstrongl@yahoo.com
Jessica Cousino...soon to be Fork:) 2023 CR 62 Gibsonburg, OH 43431  jcousino7682@hotmail.com
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Friday's Friendly Fun: NY Resolutions

I think it's important, not just at the end of the year, but periodically throughout the year to evaluate yourself.  Take time to think about areas that are lacking, things you could improve on and ways that you can make yourself healthier and happier. 

Last year I attempted to give up cigarettes for lent and failed after about two weeks.  I'm not really sure why I failed. I was able to not log on facebook and I'm much more addicted to facebook than smoking!  The past week or so I have been thinking of what I need to improve on and it's my health. I'm much happier and less stressed when I workout regularly so I started this week, but more importantly I need to quit smoking.

I have already had a blood clot and I really don't want another one.  Smoking increases my risk of future clots.  It increases my risk of cancer.  It makes my wrinkles appear more quickly.  It makes my breath and clothes smell yucky. 

Last year I wrote out my resolutions and I think it was key in my success of keeping them.  I read my post periodically during the year to remind myself why I wanted to keep the resolutions, why they are important to me and what my plan of attack was. So, I'm going to try it again this year.  I'm going to keep up my resolutions from last year and add quit smoking to the list! I know I CAN do it...I just have to do it.  Almost all of my friends have kicked it successfully and they now think it's disgusting.  I'm going to do it.  My plan of attack is simple-don't do it.  The patch or other quit smoking remedies probably would not help me because I only have a cigarette here and there when I'm drinking beer...so I guess the plan is just going to be not to go in the garage with the few remaining friends that still smoke...that I will attempt to convince to quit with me!

My resolutions last year were good too if you're looking for resolution ideas! http://publiclookin.blogspot.com/2011/01/happy-new-year.html


 Think about how you can improve your mental and physical self and write out some resolutions!!  Good luck!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Dry it up...Or I'll Give You Something to Cry About!

If I had a dime everytime that I heard this during my childhood, I'd be rich! 

If I didn't want to eat cream corn (who does??) and I would start to tear up...DRY IT UP OR I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!

I wasn't allowed to go on a date until I was sixteen and I had been asked out by this extremely hot, older boy.  I repeatedly asked permission and was denied each time...DRY IT UP OR I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!

I was 18 and my annoying little brother yelled at the police and managed to get himself taken to the police station...somehow this was entirely my fault and I was GROUNDED home from college.  For two weeks I had to come home on the weekend and stay home with my parents.  I really wanted to go to a party one night, so I asked nicely, batted my eyes, but was still denied.  Crushed, I started to cry...DRY IT UP OR I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!

You get the idea?  Any disappointment, no matter how big or small, I was given this line.  Get over it!  What is the point of crying about it?  It's not going to change the outcome, so why cry?

As my Dad's birthday approached quickly this year, it was fairly easy for me to contain the tears.  We scurried to wrap presents, visit with all of the people in town from near and far, attend Christmas concerts, send Christmas cards, you know the normal hustle and bustle that comes with the season.   When I started to feel sad, I thought of the one thousand things that needed to be done and I was able to supress/escape the pain.  Today is Christmas Eve, my Dad's birthday.

All of my presents are wrapped.  All of my cards are sent.  I don't have to be anywhere until 6pm except a quick visit to the nursing home.  No obligations, no last minute errands to run, nowhere to escape.  I'll take it as my sign to sit and watch, remember and reflect.

Dear Dad,

In the days leading up to today I thought about going to the cemetary.  Last night I bought balloons for the kids to release so they can tell you Happy Birthday.  I'm going to take them out there for a quick visit this afternoon.  They still ask about you all the time.  They wonder why you can't come back.  They wonder why you can't be here for their birthdays and Christmas and vacations and to read them a book.  They wonder why and how you got cancer.  They worry that I will get cancer or that Daddy or Mimi or Grandma or Grandpa or Papa or Nana or ...some nights they run through a list of everyone they know asking me if they will get cancer.  It's difficult for me to talk about why you had cancer because I think eventually we all get the freaking disease.  Right now I know two little children, not like I heard about them on television, nope, right here in Woodville and Pemberville, that are fighting the dreaded disease! Doug's son-in-law was diagnosed and he's Jake's age.  It's all around me.  But to the children I have to pretend that you are the only one that will get it.  They know that you are not the only person to have it, but certainly you have the only one that will die from it...at least this is what I lead them to believe.  They know Connor and know of Belle (the children with the dreaded c word) and we can't have them thinking anything but happy cure thoughts for their peers!  So far all of their prognosis's look great and I pray that they do not suffer any further setbacks. 

Lilly prays for them often.  Her mind seems to operate like someone you know as your daughter.  She struggles with an issue in her head until she finds the answer or seeks one.  She lays in bed thinking until she finally creeps down the stairs to ask if I signed her reading log or if someone will be there to pick her up from Good News Club.  She never stops thinking.  She still sleeps with Mr. Ugly Bear.  She still gets offended when I call it that;)  She misses you.  I do too.

Camille seems to have less Runion blood in her than the other two children as far as her outward appearance, but the temper...she's right on the mark, Mark Lee!  Her temper can flare instantly and then she apologizes when she calms down...I don't know anyone that acts like this on the Runion side;)  She just can't get enough kisses and cuddles from me, she senses when I'm sad and she hugs me tighter.  Her cheeks have thinned out since you left us and she has lost all of her baby fat.  You would just eat her up.  She's consumed with trying to be "cool" right now...it's an insult to her if I call her cute. 

Keegan is the most bullheaded out of the three.  He simply will NOT give up if he sets his mind on something.  Last night he woke up and used the bathroom.  He decided he wanted a drink and I told him "no, go back to bed."  Cried and cried and cried...until I finally brought him a drink.  Unbelievable!  He is so stinkin' cute though I don't stay mad for long.  He's super skinny too, but he still has chubby cheeks...Mom has trained him that one is my cheek and one is hers for kissing;)

I don't get out the pictures of you often enough for them.  It's still too hard for me to look at them most of the time.  They all ask about you all the time.  When I walked in with balloons they were so excited.  I told them that they were for you and Keegan excitedely asked "is he coming back!!???"  I told him, no, we're going to send them to heaven.  He is sending you a black one since it's his favorite color.  Camille's is purple and Lilly's is green.

They let me sleep in this morning, but as soon as I woke up I thought of you.  Our Christmas weekend started off with a family dinner you would be proud of.  Aaron is becoming quite the cook these days. Even with the grill starting on fire, the prime rib was yummy and the company was even better.  We all sat at one table and passed everything back and forth...just like we used to at Granny's.  The kids love Uncle Jake and Aunt Laine and it was nice to have them all to ourselves for a visit with mom.

Anyways, just wanted you to know that I was thinking about you.  I hope you like the cards the kids are sending with their balloons!  Now, I'm going to dry it up so you don't give me something to cry about.  I love you and miss you.  I will eat lots of shrimp and monkey tators tonight.  Happy Birthday!

Love,
Laura

PS: I passed Sycamore Grove yesterday after a funeral visitation.  I wish I could go back in time and be a fly on the wall when you guys frequented that place...well Uncle Paul actually said you practically lived there;)


Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Paid in Full

This letter is in response to my post last night: http://publiclookin.blogspot.com/2011/12/with-dawn-of-redeeming-grace.html
Since the response was so long;) and he put so much effort and thought into his words, I thought it deserved it's own post. Thanks for expressing your opinion, Sean.  Sean is a member of Fremont Church of Christ. 

Laura,
I typically do not weigh in on such subjects, but for whatever reason I did not want you to be the “cheese that stands alone.” I may say some things that you don’t necessarily agree with, but in my studies of grace I have concluded many things. Are you ready? I’m about to get long winded.

Several years ago there was an article in the San Diego newspaper about two men who were on trial for armed robbery. An eyewitness took the stand, and the prosecutor got up to begin the questioning. First he asked the eyewitness, “So you were at the scene of the robbery?” The witness said, “Yes.” “And you saw a vehicle leave at a high rate of speed.” The witness said, “Yes.” The prosecutor said, “And did you observe the occupants?” “Yes,” the witness said, “two men.” And then the prosecutor, in a booming prosecutor’s voice said, “And are those two men in this courtroom today?” At this point the defendants sealed their fate – because they both raised their hands.

The truth of the matter is that, so are we if we’re honest. We too are guilty because of sin. We would probably get along far better if we too would just raise our hands and say, “We’re guilty.”

Because we have verses like James chapter 2:10, “10 For whoever shall keep the whole law, and yet stumble in one point, he is guilty of all.”

That doesn’t sound fair now does it? That happened in the Garden of Eden didn’t it? They only had to sin once to be cast out of the Garden, because God is holy and God cannot sustain sin in his presence. It only takes one sin to make us guilty. So in a sense, all of us can say, “I did it… I’m guilty,” and we need to address that because guilt is a problem for us.
What is guilt? We know what it feels like. We all can say that we have felt it.

Guilt is like the warning light on the dashboard of your car. It is a warning light that something is wrong and needs to be fixed. And this one is important… but what do you do? Do you fix it so that the light goes off, or do you put a piece of tape over the light and act like it just doesn’t exist? Maybe you pull the fuse or you disconnect it.

All you did is cover up the problem, but there is still something wrong with the car. That’s the way guilt is.

God put that guilt there and that is one of the things that separates us from animals. We have a conscience and it pricks us and we typically know when we have done something wrong. God has put a warning light in all of us so that we will do something about it.

But I think that there are two extreme views when it comes to guilt.

There are some people who we will call spiritual sociopaths. They’re religious people… but they don’t have guilt. Jesus dealt with it in the New Testament. He called them the Pharisees. They were trusting in their religion and saying, “We don’t need the Messiah,” and they rejected him. They really didn’t feel guilt, but they should have.

Although we know a few of the Pharisees did. One famous one is Saul of Tarsus. He felt guilt but overall as a group, they opposed and rejected Jesus.

Matthew 23:27-28, “27 "Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men's bones and all uncleanness.  28 Even so you also outwardly appear righteous to men, but inside you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness.”

That’s one extreme. You don’t feel guilt even though you should.

What a way to be described. “You’re like a tomb… pretty on the outside, but on the inside you’re just full of dead men’s bones. You’re unclean inside, even though you appear to be religious.”

Another extreme are spiritual cripples. This is someone who has been forgiven by God, but cannot forgive themselves. Sometimes churches are that way.

When we come together we shouldn’t be saying, “We’re the only ones going to go to heaven and most of us here aren’t going to make it either.” When visitors come to our churches and hear that and feel that the message is that we’re a bunch of spiritual cripples and there just isn’t any joy, no enthusiasm… who would want it? Who would want to stay and listen to what else we have to say? Not me!

God does not want us to not have any joy of salvation. We need to be somewhere in between that. There should be guilt when we sin and at the same time we need to trust in God’s grace. Through that we will have joy, assurance, and pleasure in our journey knowing that we’re making it. God’s purpose lies between those two extremes.

There are a lot of people who are deceived by their sins. They don’t know how badly they need Jesus Christ. They’re deceived and they don’t feel any personal guilt. Do you know where they are on Sunday?

They’re somewhere engaging in some ungodly activity or maybe they’re just home watching television when really they should be at worship. They should be here worshipping Jesus because that is their ticket to heaven, but they are deceived and they don’t feel any guilt. God wants them to cross from one side to the other becoming aware of their sin and realizing that they really need Jesus and they feel personal guilt.

That makes sense to me. God wants us to be aware that we are sinners realizing that we need a Messiah and we need a savior. We need the anointed one to cleanse us.

But I see good news in all of this. Paul said, “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation……...” (Rom 1:16) The Gospel can save us. We can have our sins washed away and not feel legal guilt.

Now… even though you become a Christian and have been forgiven by God, you can still be burdened down by your past mistakes. It causes you to not be joyful or confident of your salvation.

Rather than accepting the forgiveness of Jesus and all that he has washed away, some start thinking, “I remember what I did and I remember how lousy of a person I was. I remember my sin.” Even those these people have been cleansed of their sins, they are still caged by guilt.
Does God want that? No!

Christians without joy are basically useless to the work of God. He wants us to be healed. God forgives us and heals us but many of us have a difficult time feeling like we’re healed. He does not want us to feel personal guilt if our sins have been washed away.

Why? Because we are under “no legal guilt” if he has taken away our sins; however… can people still sin? And if we do then we need to feel some personal guilt because if we do, it will cause us to get ourselves right, repent and ask for forgiveness and remain in relationship with God.

We can still fall away. We can stop our interaction with the church and be out of step with God, but if we are not doing what we are supposed to do we are playing with fire.
How do we know the difference between true guilt and false guilt? Let me give you some tests.

Who forgives easier, God or people? I think that we can all attest that God forgives much easier than we do and I’m pretty happy about that. False guilt can come because we will not forgive one another. So we need to ask ourselves, “Is this guilt that I am feeling coming from God or is it coming from people?” And if a person has repented, we’re not supposed to hold the issue over their head.

In 1 Corinthians chapter 5, Paul tells a story about a Christian man who is living with his father’s wife. And that means exactly what it sounds like.

2 Corinthians 2:6-8 Paul writes, “6 This punishment which was inflicted by the majority is sufficient for such a man, 7 so that, on the contrary, you ought rather to forgive and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one be swallowed up with too much sorrow. 8 Therefore I urge you to reaffirm your love to him.”

He repented, and what is Paul telling the church to do? “Embrace that brother! He has repented of that sin and now you need to run to him and embrace him.” So is guilt from people or is it from God?

Another test – Is it vague or is it specific? Is it just a feeling or is it concrete? Do you really know why you’re feeling guilty? Do you have something specific for feeling guilty, or is it just a vague feeling? If it is a vague feeling, I think that it might be from the devil.

Does Satan want us to be joyful? Does he want us to be confident in Jesus? He wants the church to be anemic. He doesn’t want us to be joyful, he wants us to be pathetic because if we are anemic and pathetic, we are not working for the Lord. We’ll be so low, we can hang our legs off a tissue and the devil knows that and he wants to try to keep us pathetic. He doesn’t want us joyful, he doesn’t want us energetic, he doesn’t want us vibrant. He wants us guilt ridden.

So we need to ask ourselves, “Do I have something specific to feel guilty about?” If you do feel guilt about something specific then it is what it is.

Psalms 69:5, “5 O God, You know my foolishness; And my sins are not hidden from You.” Does that sound specific? Yes it does.

“God, you know what sin I’m dealing with and there is no need in me trying to hide it from you.” That’s a good sin to feel guilty about, right!

I know it’s specific, because I have done it, it’s true, I’m not denying it and I’m not trying to hide it and we come right out and say, “God, I know that you know and I’m just agreeing with you.”
Is it a secret sin? Secret sin and inner peace cannot co-exist unless you’re a spiritual sociopath.

Psalms 32:3-4, “3 When I kept silent, my bones grew old Through my groaning all the day long. 4 For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; My vitality was turned into the drought of summer.”

Does that sound like a man who is broken with guilt? Absolutely! He says, “God’s hand is heavy upon me.” There is something that David is hiding. I don’t know if this is with Bathsheba because it doesn’t identify that, but David has done something and he is keeping that a secret and he says, “Your hand was heavy upon me; My vitality was turned into the drought of summer.” His conscience was burdened by it. Day and night he was burdened by it. He was not at peace.

The story is told that Noel Coward, the well known playwright, as a prank, once sent an identical anonymous letter to 10 notable men in London. The note said, "We know what you have done. If you don’t want to be exposed, leave town." Within 6 months, all 10 men that received the letter, moved!

Now, that was a terrible prank, but it shows the awesome power of guilt. He really didn’t know what they had done. Guilt is a horrible burden to bear. How should we handle guilt in our lives?

I’m going to tell you how “not” to handle it. Let’s go all the way back to Adam and Eve. They sin in the Garden and what do they do?

Genesis 3:10, “10 So he said, "I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” Do you see guilt there? Yes – he is guilty because he is a sinner now.

First, he just felt shame for what he did but just feeling bad for what you did is not enough is it? What else did he do? He went and hid. Can you imagine trying to hide from God after he had just created you? Adam tried to play a game of hide and seek but it doesn’t stop there. He did what every man would do… he blamed his wife.

Genesis 3:11-12, “11 And He said, "Who told you that you were naked?...” Have you ever gone to the beach or to the local pool and some small toddler is missing their clothes? Sometimes they get loose from their clothes, because so many small children prefer the buff. Others have parents who just don’t care, which in today’s society can be a problem because of all the pedophiles out there, but one thing I can guarantee you is that that child does not care about whether their clothes are on or off. Likewise, those same small children won’t notice you either if they catch you stepping out of the shower or getting ready for church. Little children are like that. As we get older we lose our innocence and it happened to Adam and Eve.

“11 And He said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?" 12 Then the man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”

“You know… if it wasn’t for Eve… we would probably be okay here.” Hey now don’t blame me, that’s just what Adam said and I’m just repeating it! And then she blamed it on the serpent. She said, “It was the serpent.” And the serpent didn’t have a leg to stand on. Isn’t that how we deal with sin? We guilt, we try to hide it, and then we blame someone. Is that the way to handle it?

God has a much different way of handling guilt and it is one word… Grace! How does God handle sin and how does he handle guilt?


1 John 2 verse 1 and 2…
“1 My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. (That is the goal for everyone, isn’t it? There should not be even one incidence of sin… that should be the goal in life.) And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. (Jesus is our attorney, he is our mediator between us and our creator.) 2 And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.”

Propitiation means that Jesus’ blood is what satisfies the wrath of God. When Jesus died on the cross, his blood satisfied God’s wrath. That is why he is the atoning sacrifice for our sins and it’s pretty powerful if you think about it because it says that his blood takes care of the whole world.

There are about 6 billion people in this world and Jesus’ blood is adequate to cleanse all of us. If blood is powerful enough to cleanse billions of people, it should certainly be powerful enough to cleanse my sin.

Now not only do we need to deal with our sin, but we also need to confess it.
Psalms 32:5, “5 I acknowledged my sin to You, And my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD," And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.”

Proverbs 28:13, “13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and (notice this) forsakes them will have mercy.” Not only does he want us to confess out sins, but God wants us to turn away from our sins. We have to change our ways.

1 John 3:4, “4 Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness.”
What is sin? What is the middle letter of the word sin? I… and that’s where we get into trouble. It’s when we leave God out and we follow our own will rather than his. I become a lawless person who fails to listen to the law giver.

Another part of dealing with guilt is accepting Jesus as your mediator.

1 John 1:9, “9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

If you have been forgiven by Jesus’ blood… how much of your sin has been forgiven? ALL OF IT! Will Jesus bring it up again later? We need to approach God with the confidence that he will honor his word about that.

Hebrews 10:22, “22 let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.” That says that we should be able to draw near to God with confidence.

Jeremiah 31 and the last part of verse 34, ““34………. For I will forgive their iniquity, and their sin I will remember no more.” He is not going to bring it up anymore.

Another part of dealing with sin is that there are times when we need others to pray for us. James 5:16, “16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”

People ask for prayers all the time. There’s no shame in that. If you have confessed a sin before God but you are still dealing with it on an ongoing basis I think that it would be wise to find a righteous man or woman who you respect in the Lord, and asked them to pray for you about this matter.

God not only wants to forgive us, but he wants to heal us too. Have you ever paid a bill and they stamped it with a big rubber red stamp and it said “Paid in Full?” That just looks and feels good doesn’t it?

God has given us all a letter and he has stamped it and do you know what it says? “21 For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” (2 Cor 5:21)

Paid in full! I wish I could say that about my mortgage, or my car, or my school loan. But we don’t have to feel guilt anymore about past sins. Our sins are removed, abolished and annihilated but we also need to forgive ourselves.

This may be the hardest part of all: I want to encourage everyone: "Don’t spend the rest of your life regretting your past. I invite you to do what David did in Psalm 32.

The grace of Christ saves us. It’s more than just a thought of the birth of Christ and feeling more this time of year than the rest of the year. I can clearly see that this is a tough time for you and I completely understand that and sympathize with that as I too reminisce on some things that are dear to me, but every Sunday is resurrection Sunday and a celebration of him in everything.


Merry Christmas,
Sean Rizor