Focus!

I have lots of little creative thoughts floating around in my head this morning, but none that I really want to tap into at work. I don't really have time to write today anyways, but I need to refocus and inspire myself to work, so I'm taking a short writing break.   Yesterday, I quickly made party invites, organized and stuffed a charity basket, and shopped for birthdays...these are the creative thoughts floating around in my head and I need to block them out and channel my brain to think of work. 

One thing that works for me to regain focus is making a list!  I LOVE to check things off of my list.  Although I would much prefer to use my morning party planning, charity event organizing or writing, I have to work...I will start my list! And start to cross things off! 

What is requiring your focus right now? What should be at the top of your list?  Are you concentrating all of your efforts on the task at hand? What motivates you to focus? 

The immature mind hops from one thing to another; the mature mind seeks to follow through.

Harry A. Overstreet

I'm going to follow through!

Friday's Friendly Fun: Jennifer Hammitt

So, I'm pretty excited to have a guest blogger, I'm not going to pretend otherwise:)  Plus, I think she's pretty awesome, funny, and totally one of a kind!  I have been following her blog for quite sometime now and I'm so happy that she agreed to guest blog.  Thanks, Jenni!!

You can follow her at http://jenniferhammitt.blogspot.com/

Thanks Laura!

Mom's pendant as Kelsey's Something Blue

This was a perfect day: Adam and Kelsey's wedding. It was a day/weekend my family needed. It was a day I needed. My family was together for a happy occasion. I gained a sister. I began a new chapter in my life. 

Many of you already know, the past 16 months haven't been exactly kind to the Hammitt family.  We have lost both of our parents. My sister and I are lucky to be alive ourselves. We have had unwanted media attention. We had a crash course in elder care, Medicare and Hospice with Dad. There was so much sadness, anger, loneliness we had to face. We just couldn't seem to get ahead.

There were times where it would have been easy to just give up. It would have been so easy to sink into the darkness. There are some many decisions to be made, losses to grieve and feelings to deal with. Every time I saw my family, there was something that had to be taken care of. It was overwhelming at times. 

It was hard to keep my focus on that little glimmer of hope out in the distance. I am not trying to feed you rainbows and butterflies. I had some serious doubts that I would ever really be happy again. There were days where I seriously questioned why I survived the tornado. Even on my worst day, I worked hard to cling that little bit of hope. It would get better. It had to get better. I had no idea when that would be, or what it would look like. It was hope that pushed me out of bed many mornings, and helped me survive my days. Even as things did start to look better, I knew there was a bigger pay off in the works. That glimmer was getting brighter.

My hope finally paid off  on that slightly rainy, but still perfect fall day. My family was together, happy, laughing, and having a great time. There were no tough choices. There was some sadness (our parents weren't there), but that was evened out by knowing there were there in spirit and in our hearts. It was a new start for Adam and Kelsey, our family and for me personally. I know that had I let my darkness consume me,  this day still would have come. However, it wouldn' have been the same. The smiles wouldn't have been genuine. My heart would not have been in it. The happiness would not have been that same euphoric level. Things won't always be that perfect, but I am starting to bask in the glow of my hope. With it I can face almost anything. 

Even when life is at it's worst, cling to your hope. It will be what saves you.

Half-Full/Half-Empty

Often when I'm feeling discouraged about work or family or life, I have to really work to refocus and find the good.  To maintain a positive outlook takes work!  Truthfully, sometimes I'd like to join Negative Nancy and Debbie Downer and whine and complain about life, but when I am feeling blah, everyone is up my butt asking "what's wrong?" or "why are you so quiet today?"  So, I usually snap out of it pretty quickly:)  I'm just not programmed to function that way.  I like to find the good in each day; search for the rainbow during the rain instead of waiting for the sun to come back and magically create the rainbow.

Last year I did 30 days of thankful during the month of November.  A facebook friend was doing it so I thought I'd join...I LOVED it! If you're looking for a little motivation, you should try it!  It is an easy way to concentrate on something good each day.  I have been practicing the past couple Mondays...with posts like: *Month old red headed boys that love "Aunt" Laura and not "Aunt" Ash *Basement full of wonderful items donated to find a cure! *Dads that carve pumpkins after little sleep and working all day *Costume parties with friends *Fun pictures of the weekend on friends pages *Finding out who the mystery friend is:) *Excitement for my cousins blog launch *Performances at the nursing home *And Yay, I get to see Jess tonight:) 

Rather than get frustrated that I can't get the freaking bill to upload, I think of something that I'm thankful for and I feel better about the ERROR message...for the 1500000th time!  I try to laugh at myself. Today I thought, if Grant or Adam were here, they'd get this stupid thing to work the first time.  Why can't I understand technology the way they do?  And laughed at myself and my severe lack of computer skills...it's probably because I'm Amish;) Or instead of taking offense to my friends calling me Amish for reasons like my phone is ancient, or because we didn't have cable for the first 5 years of marraige, or because Aaron doesn't believe in heating our house and if I do want it to be warm we must build a fire to warm our house, I embrace it.  I don't know what else to do, but laugh at the jokes! 

I think laughing at yourself is a HUGE key to looking at the glass half-full!  If you take yourself seriously all of the time you're going to be quick to point out your shortcomings and imperfections.   I know when I am insecure, I convince myself that other people are noticing whatever my shortcoming is.  I am so focused on whatever it is that I think everyone else must be too!  Even though they probably aren't! Once you get over the insecurity and laugh at the imperfections, the bad feelings and negative emotions attached to the insecurity lose their power.  I am still working on some insecurities, but admitting them and laughing at them takes power away from them!  Nobody is perfect! Embrace your imperfections, laugh at them if you can!

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."

We are leaving for a quick vacation today, so before I went to bed I was writing this quick little post for Friday Fun, but I think some of my friends can use the perspective talk today, so I'm hoping to get a guest blogger for Friday Fun. Anyways, I scrolled through Facebook and the glass started to look half-full; I was having a hard time seeing anything but rain.  I discovered a little boy from Woodville, who I do not even know, was diagnosed with ALL-a cancer of the blood: Connor.  This made me think of Isabelle.  Then I thought about a friends friend that lost her baby last week and my friends in the hospital waiting anxiously to hear results and pull tubes and get out.  I prayed for them and cried for them.

Picture by Grant Cummings

I woke up this morning and put on my pearls in memory of and in honor of. I woke up today ready to chase a rainbow.  I poured out the glass of water on my night stand and refilled it with fresh, new water.  Now the glass is full!  If you need to pour the water out and start over, go for it...as many times as you need to each day!  Each moment offers a new chance to change your perspective!  Laugh at yourself, throw out the insecurities, pray for your loved ones and even strangers. Join me in the 30 days of thanks!  Chase the rainbow instead of waiting for it to magically appear! Find the beauty and share it with people that could use it.

Picture by Julie Hirt Overmyer



Day One of Thirty: Thankful to be surrounded by people who are supportive, loving, and kind. Remembering that I when I needed an army of support, everyone was there. Quite a few people in our community need us to rally in their support now. I am thankful and honored to stand at their side. Lend your good thoughts and support if you can and be thankful for each new day. November is lung cancer awareness month. Pearl is the color to support this cause. Wear your pearls!

Friday's Friendly Fun: Random

My children must have really missed me over the four day weekend.  So far this week, I have well-behaved children with things spewing from their mouths that can't be taken as anything but compliments and maturity and reassurance that I'm doing ok as a mother. Syndi pointed out that I rarely talk about my children when we converse.  Unless people ask about my monsters, I don't really talk about them, so I thought I'd share a few stories from this week.

Monday morning (after four days away):

Keegan (sitting on the stairs when I turned the corner): MOMMA!!!!
Me (scooping up the cutest little boy EVER): Hey, bud, did you miss me?
Keegs: So so much, can I have 5 butterfly kisses?
I start to give them to him on his cheek.
Keegs: No, Mom, on MINE neck.
(WONDERFUL, he already likes his neck kissed, we're in for some trouble! I give him a few butterfly kisses on his neck)
Keegs: That was not 5, Momma.  I can count to 10 now, you know?  And that was only 3.
Me: Sorry, Bud, here you go.
Keegs: Ok, now a bear hug.  A polar bear one.
Me: I love you.
Keegs: I love you, too.

Tuesday before we went to church to watch the "Hot Flashes":

Cami: Mom, you don't look like other Moms.
Me (thinking to myself, should I even ask??): Why Cam? What do you mean?
Cami: Because you look like a kid!
Me: Like I could be in your class?
Lilly: No, Mom, like you are in college. (With an eye roll, like I so should have known what they were talking about!!)
Me: Oh, girls, you're the best!

(Especially since I have not purchased any makeup yet and in reality I look tired and gross.  I, at the very least, need some mascara and eyeliner to hold me over until Syndi returns my personal belongings!)  **I did break down and get mascara and eyeliner Wednesday night (promptly after hanging up with Syn and her stating that she would not be able to send my makeup until Saturday)...I was prepared for a week of no makeup...NOT TWO!

Wednesday night when I asked Lilly if she wanted to be a part of a group:

Lilly: I don't think so Mom, I'm already gone an awful lot with all of my other activities.
Me: Well, Lil, I think you would really like it.  You know how you like to do projects, that's kind of what this is.
Lil: What day of the week is it?  Will it mess up one of the things I'm already in?
Me: Friday right after school. No, you can still do everything else.
Lil: Who is in it?
Me: Does it matter?
Lil: I guess not.  What if I don't like it?  You already told me that I can't quit things in the middle, how long does it last?
Me: The school year.  If you don't like it, you don't have to do it next year.
Lil: Do you think my Dad will care?
Me: No, babe, this is something Dad will like...not like cheerleading;)
Lil: Ok, does it start this week? 
Me: No, next week.  Do you want to try it?
Lil: Yes, I want to do it (with a hug). Now can you tell me who is in it?
Me: Sure...X, Y, Z, W, L, K, J
Lil: YAY!! I like X and Y and I know Z and W from here.  I don't know L, K, or J, but I'm sure they will be nice, too.

She never ceases to amaze me.  I wish I could be as open to change and the unknown as she is!

I picked a happy story for each child for this post...there are 100 others that I could tell just this week.  I love being a mother.  Even though I refer to them as monsters, even when they spill their milk two nights in a row at dinner, even when they have accidents at school, even when I would rather not change the sheets in the middle of the night, even when they throw tantrums at the most inconvenient time.  Even then.

On to my non-children Friday Fun, that I really did intend to make more fun as the week started, seriously!

Whoever put the sign in my refrigerator, again a great great big thank you.  It was so very thoughtful (AND ANNOYING BECAUSE I WANT TO KNOW WHO DID IT!!!)!  THANK YOU:)  And I love it and can't decide where I want to put it.  I want to put it next to the fridge, but not until we finish the garage in like 10 years...I'm thinking by the front door.  I already warned Aaron another hole will be magically appearing:)

God must know what I need:)

I haven't seen Syn in a year and the weekend with her and my friends, both new and old, was PERFECT. I left the vacation feeling renewed and ready to concur the world.  Even with the date, the time of year and my Dad heavy in my thoughts, I was calm and peaceful and loving.

Last night, I checked in with a friend that I had been waiting to hear from all day.  Of course I was assuming the worst when they had not checked in.  The news was not good.  I felt like the feelings of calm and peace that were achieved over the weekend were now crashing down on me, like it was a false sense of high.  I felt like I was a teeny tiny jelly fish and the waves were crashing and banging me in all directions, taking with them the calm and peaceful and loving feelings as I splattered to the shore.

Honestly, I had a melt down. For me a melt down is sitting in a dark room and existing. Most of the time I don't cry, I just sit there in the dark. Aaron checked on me frequently to make sure he didn't have to take me to the nuthouse.  I sat and felt the numbness; the disbelief. I patiently waited for the numbness to fade; for the waves to stop crashing.  As I washed up to shore I realized I couldn't stay on the beach for too long.  I would dry out and die and the other jellyfish need me to fight.  I had to get back into that freezing cold water with the waves crashing over my head.  I know that eventually the water will calm; I'll be able to float on my back and relax again.  I convinced myself not to dry out this time, not to lose faith. I jumped back in to the ocean...I'm learning to ride the waves!

After a little while I turned on my music.  I was looking for the perfect song to make me feel better.  Last night it was Sufjan. I went and sat with my husband and thought about the swans, the signs, the love and hope, it's all around me.

http://youtu.be/99TCWaHmWKc

I have an abundance of Swans flying over me. Lots of signs to see each and every day.  I can see them more clearly when I'm riding on the waves rather than letting them spin me around. When something dreadful happens it is so easy to concentrate all of your energy on it, the horns aren't easy to defeat, even if they are disguised as waves in the beautiful ocean.  All of the conditioning I have been doing, all of the practice I have had, all of the praying I have been focused on, you would think I would be better at recommitting to faith.  It's difficult to change the focus back to love and hope and faith when something bad happens, but I am getting better with practice!

I hope my friends that are in the wilderness right now know that they have oodles of Swans looking after them, too.  An unlimited supply of beautiful, amazing signs to see each and every day.  Even though it takes practice to see the swans and signs through a difficult diagnosis, side effects of medication, medical testing, job lose, nightmares, broken friendships, they are there; He is there.  Practice and you will see them more and more, often when you least expect them and ALWAYS when you NEED them!

I am at my best when I am with those who truly know me...and love me despite that fact.  God knows my heart; He knows what I need this month to make it. Last weekend couldn't have been more perfectly timed.  Laura's coming to town all weekend and Jess is coming Sunday.  We get to dress up and pretend we are someone else with great friends for Halloween.  Aaron surprised me with a quick trip away from everything, just our little family, deep in the wilderness.  This month, when I couldn't have used it more, I get to see nearly all of my friends and spend time with my loved ones...even most of the ones that live miles away!

Look for the swans, breathe in the signs, feel them and let them fill you up and restore your spirit.  They are all around you, open your eyes!  Praying that everyone else that desperately needs a sign, will see them, too!

Ride the waves...they're pretty gnarly, but have faith, you can do it!

"Take a 30-second vacation. Go within and focus on the positive, thereby creating an attitude built on strength, courage, and infinite possibilities." -Keith D Harrell

One Year Down

"The punctuation of anniversaries is terrible, like the closing of doors, one after another between you and what you want to hold on to."

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

 This quote is why I think death anniversaries are difficult.  You start to forget the way your loved one smelled; with out pulling out their cologne, perfume or deoderant to remind you.  You begin to forget the lines in their face or the expressions that you so often had to read because they weren't ready to express their feelings; without grabbing a photo.  The things that remind you of your loved one during the season of their death often elicits negative memories of each change in medicine, every turn for the worse; rather than a happy memory before they were ill. The doors seem to slam loudly and clammer in your head as the days that they were alive a year ago become fewer in your memory.  The date of their death closes in quickly and for my family the end wasn't sunshine and rainbows.

It stings to remember that time of my Dads life (and my life for that matter).  I went to a housewarming party a few weeks ago and missed the turn.  I ended up at River Road.  River Road when the colors were all changing and pumpkins were on porches.  The same River Road that I drove once, twice, three times a day last October.  It took all of my courage, all of my strength to turn around, wipe the tears and attend the party.  That reminder, one that I wasn't anticipating, brought back that feeling of not being able to catch my breath. 

Admittedly, the times that I feel like I have to gasp to breathe are becoming less frequent with each day.  I have learned to prepare for the reminders that will most certainly always trigger the feeling of loss. Some of the triggers I have even managed to tie a happy memory to it in my mind. For example when I think about the ill effects of brain tumors I try to remember the time that my Dad could not find his wallet.  He made me search EVERYWHERE!  It was in the refridgerator.  Because of little stories that I have attached to the not so perfect stories, I can often avoid the overflowing of tears if it is not convenient to let them fall.

I wasn't ready to think about Hospice when I noticed that I was at River Road.  Deep breath.

This weekend I talked to a bestie about the upcoming anniversary.  Her loved one has been gone for nearly four years and she still remembers what she was doing in the days and weeks before her Mom passed.  She still has that can't breathe feeling when she isn't expecting it. 

We met a young man this weekend that lost his Dad 18 years ago.  He still has triggers that make him soul search, make him gasp for air.

Anniversaries of death will always be a trigger. 

I think you can compare this trigger to 9/11.  Everyone knows where they were, who they were with, what they were doing and most importantly how it impacted thier lives.  It is not any different when you lose someone very dear to you.  You remember where you were standing when you received the call, who was with you and who you had to tell next.  Life seemed to stand still and it was blurry and confusing and overwhelming.

Did you know that Hospice sends the primary contact a card for the death anniversary?  Since the address listed with this service is ours, we still receive my moms mail from them.  The other day she opened it and it was a card that said on the front "On the anniversary of your loved ones death". To me this is strange!  I have read a few books on grief and often page through the mailings from Hospice and I suppose everyone remembers and acknowledges the day of death and the days and weeks leading up to that day, too.

But really, a card that says it right on the front?  Seems odd to me, but thoughtful in the same breath.  My friends have all asked how I'm doing this month.  They all remember approximately the time or even the exact day of my Dads death. I think the line or phrase I would suggest is something like:

I remember that your dad has been gone a year today (or soon, or this month-whatever day or week or month it is). (Personal memory if you have one.  Example: I cherish my memories of eating spaghetti with a houseful of my best friends once a week during basketball season.  Your mom always went to such an effort to make sure everyone was well fed and genuinely seemed happy to have 10 girls invade her house, burp loudly and be obnoxious.)If there is anything I can do to help, please let me know. 

I don't know, something to that effect is what I think is the best way to approach the subject...if you feel compelled to say something. If you have a personal memory of the lost loved one I think that's a good time to share it, too.  (I DO NOT WANT EVERYONE POSTING COMMENTS ON FB-FYI) 

Anyways, this is my head today, a few days before the first year anniversary of death of my Dad.  I am doing ok.  I was able to enjoy a wonderful wedding weekend with my husband and some of my very best friends.  We have plans every night this week that the children are looking forward to.  I have a GREAT costume for our Halloween party.  I get to spend lots of quality time with my monsters and Aaron next week.  I'm breathing and smiling and laughing.  When I needed people to step up for me, they did.  Most will never fully understand how much they mean to me.

The first year is difficult, but I'm almost to the end and I know my Daddy would be proud:)

Just Breathe

http://youtu.be/kuq7RYQ8Wa0

Friday's Friendly Fun: Guest writter, Amanda

So, I've never had a guest blogger and I'm thinking this doesn't really count anyways because the message was not prepared to be posted on a blog.  The message was prepared to challenge the hearts and souls of our congregration and bring us closer to God through sharing our stories.  This message was delivered last Sunday by a friend brought to me by God.  I was introduced to her at a church luncheon, but had already had a few people chirping in my ears about how I was going to LOVE her well before we met in person.  They were all right!  Our husbands are freakishly similar.  Amanda smiles on bad days, she keeps her composure when everyone would understand if she lost it, she's a person that it seems like I have known forever, but in actuality I haven't even known her for a full calendar year...I am very proud to call her my friend to say the least:)  I am so very excited that I will soon get to play dress up and encourage cheerleading and hair pretties...since I am undoubtedly raising one, she might as well be too! 

My Sister in Christ, Amanda; one of Keegan's few boy friends, Griffin; and Hubby Wes

When Pastor Jen first asked me to stand up here to give a message and discuss my personal reflection of faith and how I give to God, I totally thought she had the wrong person.  I kept thinking….”who am I to stand up there in front of everyone and talk about faith?”  First of all, I have just begun to appreciate my relationship with the Lord and am so immature in my faith journey.  I cannot quote scripture and do not know the Bible well enough to speak on it with any sort of intellect.  What in the world, would I talk about to an entire congregation??  I really couldn’t think of a very good reason to tell her “no, ” so, I decided I would pray about it.  Pastor Jen had messaged me on a Tuesday and I took rest of the week until Sunday to give her an answer.  While I was praying and pondering during the week, I was also reading the 40-day devotional “A Purpose Driven Life.”  In the reading for several days that week there was a pronounced message about sharing your story and faith with others.   Well….I think you get the idea…I don’t believe that was fate….I think God was definitely telling me I needed to step out of my comfort zone and up to the pulpit. 

As I have mentioned previously, I am still very immature in my faith journey and my knowledge of the Bible leaves much to be desired.  Throughout my life, I would have called myself a Christian.  I grew up in a Methodist Church in North Baltimore, a small town southwest of here.  I had an awesome experience growing up there.  I enjoyed going to church, getting involved in the YF, and being around some amazing people.  When I went to college, I chose a small, Christian school called Bluffton College.  Once again, I loved it!  I had a great experience and established some very special lifelong relationships.  After I graduated college and moved to Woodville, I didn’t really have a church where I belonged.  I would sometimes go back to North Baltimore and attend with my sister-in-law and niece or once in a while I would drag Wes, my husband, to go with me to a church in Fremont.  Most of the time though, I would spend my Sundays catching up on sleep, visiting with family and friends, schoolwork, and once in a while…some much needed housework. I had definitely drifted.  Well, as many of you know, I live across the street from the Molter’s.  With RJ and Carolyn’s persistent efforts to get me to come to THEIR church (and even coercing me with food, cookies, desserts, etc.) I eventually attended a few times and at some point last fall….I realized that I had been missing something HUGE in my life.  I started to attend regularly and even brought my son, Griffin to the nursery – which he LOVES!!!! Everyone here was so welcoming, that I truly felt as though I belonged. Since I start coming here and maybe since I am a little bit older and wiser ;)  I have discovered or maybe just rekindled a new passion for the Lord.  I want to learn more about the Bible, I want to have a relationship with the Lord, and I want to be a doer of his word. Before, I don’t think I was ever truly ready to really experience all that He had to offer. I may still be quite immature, but I am listening and ready to learn.

Listening to God and having faith is one of the biggest challenges that I face as a Christian.  I am a planner and like things to go my way.  It has always been hard for me to put my faith and trust in the Lord, when I know that I am giving up control.  It is also hard to have faith when we don’t understand God’s plan, especially when that plan is not coinciding with MY PLAN! All through high school and college I thought for sure I would find a teaching job teaching cute little third graders and Wes and I would get married and live in North Baltimore, which was close to his job and near our families and friends. Little did I know, God had another plan for us. 

During my senior year of college, I was busy doing my student teaching and Wes had just changed jobs going from working at a surveying company to the maintenance department at Bowling Green State University.  We were engaged to be married and both looking forward to starting our lives together once I graduated in May.  Well, one night in November, we had been talking on the phone and he was describing to me how he just didn’t feel right.   He was tingly and numb in places and just felt weird.  Well, at the time he was on a very physical flag football team and since he did manual labor for the university, although I was concerned, I didn’t think too much about it…I figured he just pulled or strained something.  Well, over the next few days, I realized this was something much more than a strain.  He lost almost complete feeling of the left side of his body and was using a cane to limp around.  What in the world was going on?  Finally, after much convincing he went to see a doctor. The doctor sent him to a neurologist and the neurologist ordered up an MRI.   When the MRI results came back we were told it was either a brain tumor, a stroke, or multiple sclerosis.   Yikes!! We were shocked…Wes was healthy….he was 22…and which one of those awful things to you hope for.  How could this be happening to us?  Why would God do this to a person?  This was definitely NOT in my plans.  After countless tests, doctor’s visits, and emotional distress, Wes was diagnosed with MS.

Even though I do not understand why this has happened to a person I love, I do realize that hard times bring growth.  I am sure that many of you have similar stories....maybe it was a loved one with cancer, a paralyzing accident, or the loss of a somebody close to you much too soon.  It is hard to understand and be able to have faith when you feel abandoned.  It is hard to listen to God and give to God when you do not understand how He could let something so awful happen.  How could this be in God’s ultimate plan?  Well, God never promised that our lives on Earth would be easy or good for that matter.  If life on Earth was so glamorous, we would never want to leave to get to heaven to be with Him.

Since his diagnosis, Wes has had a few relapses, walks with a limp, tires very easily, gets monthly infusions, and takes gobs of medication.  For the most part though, I consider us to be blessed.  We have learned to cope with the symptoms and have received wonderful support and medical care.  In retrospect, I have realized that even though I still do not understand why my husband has to live with MS and its symptoms, we have to trust that God has a reason. Maybe God did this so that our relationship would be stronger or so that Wes would be able to stay home with our children. Regardless of the reasoning, I know that I cannot doubt the Lord.  I have to have faith and trust that this is all part of His spiritual plan.

Despite all the issues and emotional anguish involved in Wes’s medical condition, I graduated college with a double major in Early Childhood Education and Special Education.  I desperately wanted to teach in an elementary school, so I began my job search during the spring of my senior year.  After interviewing at a job fair, I was offered a job at Benton Carroll Salem schools as an Intervention Specialist teaching HIGH SCHOOL. High School….now mind you, I was only 21 with my heart set on 3^rd graders.  What would I do with High Schoolers – they were nearly my age…I still had friends in high school?  Once again, God had thrown me a curveball.  This was not in my plan, but I was thrilled to at least have a job…especially since Wes was no longer able to work.  I thought I would get my foot in the door, gain some experience, and maybe be able to bump into an elementary job if one opened up in the next few years.  Eight years later, I LOVE my job teaching high schoolers with disabilities and cannot imagine teaching anything else. Now, I have the opportunity to give to God by helping students with special needs and He rewards me daily by allowing me to be a part of their lives and learn from their daily struggles, rejoice in their accomplishments, admire their innocence and appreciate their joy.  I am completely blessed and so thankful that God’s plan was so much better than mine. 

So, although I have a long way to go in my walk of faith, I will continue to give to God by loving Him and serving him in my daily life.   I try to be a loving mother, supportive wife, compassionate daughter and sister, loyal friend, and caring teacher.  I am trying to become more like Jesus every day as I learn to trust in Him ALWAYS and continue to grow in my spiritual maturity. 

A Childhood Friendship Reunited

Once upon a time there were two, white-haired, little girls.  One was named Syndi Le and the other Laura Leigh. They modeled big ugly dresses together, they climbed trees together, and they played on the monkey bars together. 

One day, when they were only in second grade, adults, jobs…life, separated the white-haired girls.  At first they sent cards on the holidays and letters to each other, but as the years passed, they lost contact with each other.  Randomly they would think fondly of the days of their youth and wonder what the other was up to, but due to subsequent moves they were unable to contact each other.

Years later, Laura packed her bags and set off for college.  Anyone that has ever gone away to college probably remembers move-in day of their freshman year, but this move-in was extra special for Laura.   She was filled with excitement and wonder as all of the others seemed to be, but also with uncertainty and fear.  It was her first time being on her own and even though she was extremely loud, most would say to the point of annoying, she was still nervous.

As Laura hurridely unpacked her belongings, she made a quick pit stop in the bathroom of Offenhauer West Floor 6.  Upon leaving the restroom she took a double take.  It HAD to be her!  It HAD to be Syndi Le Cline, she just knew it!  She was practically jumping with excitement when she returned to her room to tell her roommate that her childhood best friend was attending the same college!

That evening, everyone on Floor 6 of the dorm met in the community area to meet the resident advisor and participate in a couple ice breakers to meet the people that would be living on the same floor, watching television together, yelling at each other to hurry up and finish showering because they had parties to attend! 

The young girls all sat in a circle and nervously waited until it was their turn to speak.  As mentioned earlier in this story, Laura was rather obnoxious and rather loud.  When it was finally her turn to talk she looked at the rest of her floormates, introduced herself and then blurted out "AND YOU ARE SYNDI CLINE!"  Syndi was not loud or obnoxious, but was probably severly embarrased to have all eyes on her when it wasn't even her turn to speak!

The two girls couldn't wait until the meeting was over so that they could exchange stories of how they selected BGSU, how their families were doing, what sports they liked, etc.

I doubt that either of them imagined that once again, years and years later, they would be best friends.  They would be roommates.  They would share clothes, shoes, boyfriends, shampoo, ramon noodles, unforgettable car rides skidding through stops.  Together, they would watch "That 70's Show" with friends, they would skip class, they would fight over who had to place a to go order to Myles Pizza for 8 salads for a housefull of wild women!  They set off on many adventures to places like Siesta Keys and Panama City...sometimes it was even an adventure walking to the gas station with these two crazy ladies!  They would argue about who had enough gas to get them to the Crack Shack, who was going to buy the bread that they needed to eat that week, who was going to tell Tammy that it was her turn to clean the bathroom, but no matter how big or small the argument was, they made it through as friends.

Laura now has to dye her hair to get anywhere close to the white hair of her youth and Syndi doesn't wear her coke-bottle glasses of her youth anymore, but they have made it a point to be best friends forever!  Life has once again put miles on the map between them, but they call each other frequently, they make time to visit whenever possible and the memories of their youth will be treasured in their hearts forever.

Soon, Laura and Tammy will eagerly board a plane in anticipation of a new stage of life for thier dear friend, Syndi.  This weekend Syndi will marry Shawn: the only man that is patient enough to know when to push and when to give her some space, who believed in her enough to wait for her to finally say yes after repeated denials to his invitations to dinner, who no longer has to beg of her to shave his neck as this is simply what is expected of a wife.

As the author and a main character of this story, I could not be more happy for my beautiful, amazing friend.  I am positive she will look stunning and I can not wait to share her special occasion with her.  Wishing Syndi and Shawn a life full of love and happiness.  Love,  Laura Leigh